As a genderqueer person, I always dread signing up on new websites, and try to avoid the ones that ask for a gender and only offer two options.
Prior to Pottermore’s early opening, I scoured their FAQ and found assurance that the only personal information they wanted was my name, birthdate, and location. Well, come registration, I had to give not only those, but also a gender. And, of course, I had to choose between male and female.
Made me feel as though I don’t belong in the fandom.
This makes me sad. Nobody should feel left out of the fandom.
OP, since it’s a beta, that’s something you should mention in your feedback. I’ll mention it, too, when they send out the survey! And anyone else reading this, you should do the same. The more people we can get to point out a problem, the better chance something might be done to fix it.
I’m annoyed that this slipped under my radar, as this news is actually… olds. About two weeks old.
douchebagHilton chap has suggested, among several really fucking stupid ideas, to abolish maternity leave. Seriously. And also all consumer rights legislation.
Seriously? Not long ago (in the US), not only did my employer not have maternity leave, they FIRED ME when they found out I was pregnant. I had to move back into an abusive household with my family or have my baby HOMELESS.
What are women supposed to do with their newborn babies? Not have any? Choose to starve/be homeless from losing their job if they have kids? Can’t just pop them out and strap them on their back and go to work with them…
From the NY Daily News:
“Society expects girls to be girlie, nice and pretty and boys to be manly, rough and outgoing,” says Jenny Johnsson, a 31-year-old teacher. “Egalia gives them a fantastic opportunity to be whoever they want to be.”
The taxpayer-funded preschool which opened last year in the liberal Sodermalm district of Stockholm for kids aged 1 to 6 is among the most radical examples of Sweden’s efforts to engineer equality between the sexes from childhood onward.
Breaking down gender roles is a core mission in the national curriculum for preschools, underpinned by the theory that even in highly egalitarian-minded Sweden, society gives boys an unfair edge.
To even things out, many preschools have hired “gender pedagogues” to help staff identify language and behavior that risk reinforcing stereotypes.
Some parents worry things have gone too far. An obsession with obliterating gender roles, they say, could make the children confused and ill-prepared to face the world outside kindergarten.
“Different gender roles aren’t problematic as long as they are equally valued,” says Tanja Bergkvist, a 37-year-old blogger and a leading voice against what she calls “gender madness” in Sweden.
Those bent on shattering gender roles “say there’s a hierarchy where everything that boys do is given higher value, but I wonder who decides that it has higher value,” she says. “Why is there higher value in playing with cars?”
Egalia doesn’t deny the biological differences between boys and girls – the dolls the children play with are anatomically correct.
What matters is that children understand that their biological differences “don’t mean boys and girls have different interests and abilities,” Rajalin says. “This is about democracy. About human equality.”
Interesting. I wonder what the follow through is. Are these the most formative years when it comes to fostering a sense of equality? Are they studying the effects of the program?
Related, sorta. I have this soc professor who just had a baby girl. The sociologist in her tries to avoid buying her female gendered toys or dolls or things in pink. But then she sort of became conflicted in that decision because it implicitly sent the message that things marked as feminine are inherently bad…
On the heels of the Supreme Court’s controversial ruling that female employees could not bring a class-action sex discrimination suit against Wal-mart, lawmakers are reintroducing the Equal Rights Amendment. If the Amendment passes, the U.S. Constitution will explicitly ban gender discrimination.
Democrats Rep. Carolyn Maloney (D-N.Y.) and Sen. Robert Menendez (D-N.J.) reintroduced the 88-year-old amendment at an event just outside the Capitol today.
In a press release, Maloney explained:The Equal Rights Amendment is still needed because the only way for women to achieve permanent equality in the U.S. is to write it into the constitution … Making women’s equality a constitutional right—after Congress passes and 38 states ratify the ERA—would place the United States on record, albeit more than 200 years late, that women are fully equal in the eyes of the law.
Her words were echoed by Menendez who called it a “disgrace that American women are still not constitutionally guaranteed equal rights under the law.”
First introduced in 1923, the ERA is considered one of the pioneer acts of the women’s rights movement in the United States, even though it was never ratified. Today, the ERA currently has 160 co-sponsors including Congresswoman Gwen Moore (D-WI), Chair of the Congressional Women’s Caucus, reports Ms. magazine. According to The Hill, it has been reintroduced every year since it fell three votes short of ratification in 1982.
“The Wal-Mart case decided by the Supreme Court this week is a classic example of how far attitudes must still come. The facts of the case support the view that over a million women were systematically denied equal pay by the world’s largest employer,” Maloney said in the release.
About fucking time. Let’s do this shit.
I hope this will get passed. I was just thinking about Alice Paul, who wrote the ERA today.
Every online form or application where the default is set to “male,” even in cases when gender should not even be an issue and in cases where the majority of people filling out the form would be female. Don’t even get me started on the lack of nonbinary options to click.
In 1967, the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. wrote, “In the treatment of poverty nationally, one fact stands out, there are twice as many white poor as [black] poor in the United States. Therefore I will not dwell on the experiences of poverty that derive from racial discrimination, but will discuss the poverty that affects white and [black] alike.”
Good thing Tumblr wasn’t around back then, or people would’ve been telling him he had no right to be using his position as a known public figure and activist to lead a campaign on behalf of poor whites and hispanics, since he wasn’t either of those.
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Parents keep child’s gender secret
“So it’s a boy, right?” a neighbour calls out as Kathy Witterick walks by, her four month old baby, Storm, strapped to her chest in a carrier.
Each week the woman asks the same question about the baby with the squishy cheeks and feathery blond hair.
Witterick smiles, opens her arms wide, comments on the sunny spring day, and keeps walking.
She’s used to it. The neighbours know Witterick and her husband, David Stocker, are raising a genderless baby. But they don’t pretend to understand it.
While there’s nothing ambiguous about Storm’s genitalia, they aren’t telling anyone whether their third child is a boy or a girl.
The only people who know are Storm’s brothers, Jazz, 5, and Kio, 2, a close family friend and the two midwives who helped deliver the baby in a birthing pool at their Toronto home on New Year’s Day.
“When the baby comes out, even the people who love you the most and know you so intimately, the first question they ask is, ‘Is it a girl or a boy?’” says Witterick, bouncing Storm, dressed in a red-fleece jumper, on her lap at the kitchen table.
“If you really want to get to know someone, you don’t ask what’s between their legs,” says Stocker.
When Storm was born, the couple sent an email to friends and family: “We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place? …).”
Their announcement was met with stony silence. Then the deluge of criticisms began. Not just about Storm, but about how they were parenting their other two children.
The grandparents were supportive, but resented explaining the gender-free baby to friends and co-workers. They worried the children would be ridiculed. Friends said they were imposing their political and ideological values on a newborn. Most of all, people said they were setting their kids up for a life of bullying in a world that can be cruel to outsiders.
Witterick and Stocker believe they are giving their children the freedom to choose who they want to be, unconstrained by social norms about males and females. Some say their choice is alienating.
In an age where helicopter parents hover nervously over their kids micromanaging their lives, and tiger moms ferociously push their progeny to get into Harvard, Stocker, 39, and Witterick, 38, believe kids can make meaningful decisions for themselves from a very early age.
“What we noticed is that parents make so many choices for their children. It’s obnoxious,” says Stocker.
Jazz and Kio have picked out their own clothes in the boys and girls sections of stores since they were 18 months old. Just this week, Jazz unearthed a pink dress at Value Village, which he loves because it “really poofs out at the bottom. It feels so nice.” The boys decide whether to cut their hair or let it grow.
Like all mothers and fathers, Witterick and Stocker struggle with parenting decisions. The boys are encouraged to challenge how they’re expected to look and act based on their sex.
“We thought that if we delayed sharing that information, in this case hopefully, we might knock off a couple million of those messages by the time that Storm decides Storm would like to share,” says Witterick.
They don’t want to isolate their kids from the world, but, when it’s meaningful, talk about gender.
This past winter, the family took a vacation to Cuba with Witterick’s parents. Since they weren’t fluent in Spanish, they flipped a coin at the airport to decide what to tell people. It landed on heads, so for the next week, everyone who asked was told Storm was a boy. The language changed immediately. “What a big, strong boy,” people said.
The moment a child’s sex is announced, so begins the parade of pink and barrage of blue. Tutus and toy trucks aren’t far behind. The couple says it only intensifies with age.
“In fact, in not telling the gender of my precious baby, I am saying to the world, ‘Please can you just let Storm discover for him/herself what s (he) wants to be?!.” Witterick writes in an email.
Continue reading at ParentCentral
“Barrage” is an accurate description of the constant gender labeling and policing my kids endured from the moment they were born.