I have figured out a few things (probably):
- Sexuality is fluid.
- Sexual fluidity varies in viscosity for different people.
- If you identify as something, it doesn’t matter who you’re dating/have dated/have never dated. You are who you decide you are, and nobody should be able to tell you otherwise.
- Don’t make assumptions about other people’s sexualities. I don’t care if you know a boy who has been in a three-year relationship with another boy. He might not be gay (or even a he).
- Not a lot of people have it all figured out. As I’ve shared my personal confusion, a lot of people have confided their own struggles to me as well.
- Living in a binary-obsessed society is the pits.
So go out there and make out with whomever you please. Or with no one at all. Your call. Bekki Charbonneau (via androphilia)
In Bradenton, Fla., a man shot a high school senior to death after she and her friends refused to perform oral sex at his request.
In Chicago, a scared 15-year-old was hit by a car and died after she tried escaping from harassers on a bus.
Again, in Chicago, a man grabbed a 19-year-old walking on a public thoroughfare, pulled her onto a gangway and assaulted her.
In Savannah, Georgia, a woman was walking alone at night and three men approached her. She ignored them, but they pushed her to the ground and sexually assaulted her.
In Manhattan, a 29-year-old pregnant woman was killed when men catcalling from a van drove onto the sidewalk and hit her and her friend.
Last week, a runner in California — a woman — was stopped and asked, by a strange man in a car, if she wanted a ride. When she declined he ran her over twice.
FUCK YOU if you think that street harassment is a “compliment” or “no big deal” or that it’s “irrational” of us to be afraid because “what’s actually gonna happen.” Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you some more.
This is terrorism.
it’s funny when people talk about “male socialisation” and “female socialisation” because do cafab and camab children watch different TV shows and go to different schools and live in different countries or something, nope,
Holy cow, this is gold.
Actually, childhood is incredibly gendered. Girls have very set media consumption. Toys are painted pink and emphasize collaboration and communication and role play generally revolving around the domestic sphere (dolls, model kitchens, Disney merch).
Boys, on the other hand, are offered shows that focus on leadership, and rely on the tangible—that is, math, science, athletics.
Studies show that by the age of five, children are already performing mild gender-based chores, and by age six and their first year of school, an education disparity becomes evident—teachers see female children as dominating a discussion when they talk more than 30% of the time—even the teachers that consider themselves fastidiously fair.
Girls are routinely streamed into communication-oriented fields, whereas boys are encouraged to focus on maths and sciences. This carries through into secondary and post-secondary education.
So yes, actually. It’s like boys are raised completely differently than girls, even here in the west.
The fact that you don’t recognize it simply means you probably benefitted from it and are only now noticing it’s absence.
For cis women, though, we’ve been swimming against the current our whole lives, and know exactly what it means to hear the announcement “it’s a girl”.
After Historic Iran Nuclear Deal, Conservatives Line Up Their Nazi Comparisons
The Washington Post reported that Iran agreed to a deal brokered by the United States and five other world powers “that freezes key parts of Iran’s nuclear program in exchange for temporary relief on some economic sanctions.”
The deal is just a first incremental step in a process of negotiations that “not only halt Iran’s nuclear advances but also make it virtually impossible for Tehran to build a nuclear weapon without being detected.”
So of course to the conservative media, it’s basically the start of the nuclear holocaust:
- "Abject surrender by the United States." (John Bolton)
- "Paying Iran $5 billion to $10 billion, which it can use to continue enriching and of course sponsoring terrorists." (Jennifer Rubin)
- "Obama’s destruction spread worldwide: we surrender to Iran." (Mark Levin)
- "Worse than Munich" which "allowed Hitler to consoldiate his ganes… on the bare promise of no further aggression into Europe." (Ben Shapiro)
- "They’re going to get the bomb." (George Will)
- "Congratulations to Iran on it’s successful acquisition of the bomb." (Erick Erickson)
- "Neville Chamberlain in Munich in 1938." (Daniel Pipes)
No matter how big a step this is for the international community, the conservative media is ready to sound the alarm bells.
Anonymous asked: I don't know how to feel about tumblr 'kawaii' culture. On one hand, it's great East Asian girls are finally the standard of beauty for once. But on the other, not only does it make everyone who is not East Asian, PoC or not, feel like shit, but it also reeks of fetishization (gifs/pictures of us doing the most mundane things getting thousands of notes!!) and damages the esteem of the East Asian girls who don't look like celebrities. Double on the fetishization. Am I just being too sensitive?
No, you’re not too sensitive. But I’m not sure I can agree that east asian women are the standard of beauty now, I would say that we are now a category of porn. As a Japanese woman I feel like I am considered ugly, sexless, or generally unattractive unless I am someone’s gross fetish. Julie Chen was told she could not be successful unless she had surgery to alter her asian features.
Even furthering my point, one of the comments on this video:
Selfies Aren’t Empowering. They’re a Cry for Help
an actual headline deemed worthy of adorning an equally shitty article on jezebel today: Selfies Aren’t Empowering. They’re a Cry for Help
deep heavy frustrated sigh
the entire article is full of gems like:
- “selfies don’t typically contain job offer letters, successful grant applications” (oh you’re right, i forgot that 100% of my online activity must be directly related and applicable to future potential success. better delete my steam account because logging 91 hours in saint’s row iii will never teach me how to )
- "They’re literally just pictures of a woman’s face not talking" (guess it doesn’t count that a woman took agency in taking it herself, or that you know, we don’t live at hogwarts and pictures….don’t….ever….talk)
- "In real life, walking up to a stranger, tilting your head downward at a 45-degree angle, duckfacing, pushing your tits together, and screaming "DO YOU THINK I’M PRETTY!" would be summon the authorities. On the internet, it’s just how people operate.” (because there’s no documented cultural and behavioral division between “real life” and the online sphere. guess i forgot i have to act exactly the same in every aspect of me life, and take pictures of myself in none of them)
- "I kind of hate all of them. ‘Hey guys, I’m by myself!’ my selfie says, ‘Can you please somehow indicate that other humans are out there so that I do not collapse into my own loneliness????? LOLOLOL’" (god forbid someone use the internet as a way of connecting with people who feel the same, occasionally using pictures of themselves as a vehicle to do that)
- "Young women take selfies because they don’t derive their sense of worth from themselves, they rely on others to bestow their self-worth on them." (or maybe we just looked really cute today and wanted to show our friends, you sack of horse shit)
never trust anyone who tells you that selfies are intrinsically disempowering. never let anyone make you feel bad about having the power to document your life and present yourself in a way that you can control.